The 15 Keys to Seduce Any Woman
You’ve managed to land a date with the girl of your dreams. Now you’re sitting across from her wondering how to move things forward. Maybe you’re at the club and you chance across a stunning woman who seems into you, but you’re not sure how to take things to the next step.
Maybe you’re feeling a little nervous. Should you touch her hand? Her shoulder? Does that look really mean she’s into you? Should you risk a quick kiss or is that just too much? Should you wait for her to make the next move? Do you have enough status to attract her?
Don’t feel bad. Being awkward when it comes to seduction is actually natural. Very, very few men are “naturals” here. The good news is that seduction is something that can be learned – it’s a skill that can be taught, but it’s also an art, and you will need to practice to perfect it. Below, we’ll run you through the 15 keys to seduce any woman.
1. Slow It Down
Perhaps the single most important tip to cover is this – seduction is the long game in almost every case. If you’re looking for a one-night stand with someone you’ve only just met, this guide is probably not for you. It takes time to build comfort with a woman, time for her to get to know you, and time for her to feel safe enough to lower her inherent defenses. You cannot rush through this process. If you do, you’ll crash and burn. Slow down. Take time to get to know her, and for her to get comfortable with you. Use the rest of the tips on this list to up your game and you might be surprised at how things conclude.
2. Dress for the Role
A lot is riding on your choice of attire. If you go into things looking like a slob, then you’re going to get the appropriate results. You want to make the best first impression possible, and that means not dressing like Justin Bieber. Real women want real men, and that means dressing the part. No, you don’t necessarily need to wear a tux, but a sport coat and a button-down shirt sure won’t hurt your chances. Ditch the sneaks for a pair of decent shoes while you’re at it.
3. Use Your Words
Sure, women are attracted to masculinity, but that doesn’t have to mean being a Cro-Magnon. You can be a fully evolved homo sapien, and be just as impressive. In fact, mounting evidence points to the fact that women actually like men who have a decent vocabulary and aren’t afraid to use it. It shows that not only are you a man’s man, but that you’re educated and smart. Yes, women like a manly exterior, but they also care about what’s under that veneer.
4. Actually Listen to Her
This is a tip that pretty much every man should take to heart. Pay attention to what she says. It’s not inconsequential. It’s not drivel. It’s not boring. If you’re doing nothing but talking about yourself, your interests, your friends, or your job, you’re driving a wedge between you and there’s virtually no chance of closing the deal. You’re showing her that you’re really not interested in her at all. Listen to what she says. Respond to it. Ask questions. Be engaged. This will make her feel like the only woman in the room, and it shows that you actually are interested in more than just sex.
5. Use the Right Body Language
We often think that humans are verbal creatures, but a lot of what we communicate to one another is said without words. Body language matters a lot, particularly when you’re interested in a woman. Make sure that your body language conveys confidence, interest, and even a little bit of teasing, but that you’re not overbearing, closed off, or cold.
6. Avoid Drinking
This one might seem to go against conventional wisdom. After all, doesn’t a stiff drink help you build up your confidence? Sure, it can, but it can also backfire. Too many men wait to approach women until they’re getting their drink on, which is actually quite the turn off. Try going for what you want while you’re sober – it might be just enough to set you apart from the other guys out there.
7. Master Your Fear
Fear is your body’s natural response to a situation your subconscious brain designates as filled with risk. While there’s little chance of dismemberment, poisoning, or death when trying to seduce the woman of your dreams, there are other risks, and other threats. There’s the risk that you’ll be rejected. There’s the worry that she’ll laugh at you. There’s the fear that she’ll just walk away, leaving you alone and ridiculed. Master your fear. Realize that all men feel that nervous flutter in the stomach at times like this, but it is your ability to move beyond it that sets you apart. It’s your ability to push forward through the fear that makes you an alpha male.
8. Make Eye Contact
Too many guys struggle with this one. They’ll happily talk up a woman with the goal of sleeping with them, but they cannot make eye contact. Looking a woman in the eye while trying to seduce her is terribly uncomfortable for them. Women pick up on this quickly, and it immediately creates a sense of distrust. Think about it – would you be trusting of someone who refused to meet your eye? No, you wouldn’t, and that’s because it is one of the prime indicators that someone’s lying, or that someone is very uncomfortable with a particular situation. You can’t afford either of those appearances. Make eye contact. Be bold.
9. Grooming Matters
If it’s been days and days since a razor last touched your cheeks, you need to sit this round out. If you haven’t had your hair cut in weeks, opt out of the game until you can rectify the situation. Women have no desire to be with a guy who looks like a slob. You can dress to the nines, but if you’re not paying attention to the whole package, you’re not going to get the results that you want.
10. Build Confidence
What would you say separates the winners from the losers when it comes to the art of seduction? Is it their clothing? Is it their initial approach? Do they fail when it comes to the clincher? No, no, and no. In most cases, it’s their lack of confidence. Women want a self-confident man who knows himself and his own value. Show confidence through your body language, your conversation, and your ability to be a leader without overtly controlling things.
11. Pay Attention to Ambiance
Nothing kills a romantic glow faster than the wrong ambience. If you’re trying to talk her up, a noisy nightclub with people grinding on one another two feet away is probably the wrong place. If you’re trying to build her comfort with you, then the dance floor is the wrong place. Pay attention to the ambiance of your location and how that ties in with your efforts. If you want conversation, go somewhere quiet. If you want fun, then hit the dance floor. Choose the ambiance and location that best suits your current stage in the seduction game.
12. Keep the Conversation Flowing
It’s important that you don’t let the conversation flag and falter. Natural pauses are normal, and you want those, but you don’t want the conversation to die out completely and then not pick back up once more. There are plenty of ways you can keep the discussion going, but one of the best is to pick up on cues in what she says, and turn those into questions about her, and anecdotes about your own past. By mixing things up, you can keep the conversation flowing. If you'd like some tips to ensure you'll never run out of things to say, check out my other post '5 Tips To Ensure You Never Run Out Of Things To Say (To A Woman)'.
13. Get Comfortable
You might be surprised at how much difference body positioning has in your seduction efforts. Get comfortable, cozy even. You can do this in any number of ways – go for a walk after your date, hand in hand down the sidewalk. Choose a booth at the restaurant, and then sit together. Find ways to snuggle up with her and you’ll get to the end game that much faster.
14. Be a Gentleman
Never let impatience make you rude. Sure, some women like bad boys, but most of them would prefer a guy who treats her well, is polite, and uses good manners. Be a real gentleman, not a player. The world has enough jerks.
15. Maintain Some Mystery
Finally, make sure that you’re able to maintain some element of mystery. Don’t give everything away at once. Realize that leaving things left unsaid, or teasing a little and then ending the evening without pushing for sex makes you very alluring to her. A little mystery will keep her coming back for more.
Using the 15 tips outlined above will help you up the ante in your seduction game, but remember that you’re in it for the long haul. Real seduction is about more than getting just another one-night stand. Ready to really up your game? Check out my Advanced Seduction Course 'The T8 System (click here)' to learn about becoming a charismatic, attractive man.