How to Handle A.M.O.G's Like a Boss
Picture this: You’re out for a night on the town. Maybe you didn’t start out hunting for a woman in a club – we’ve covered why clubs and other nightlife venues are pretty poor options for this sort of thing. Despite not being on the prowl, you find yourself talking to a beautiful woman.
Things are going pretty well, and you’re thinking to yourself that maybe there’s an exception to that no-club girls thing.
One of her girlfriends gets up to use the restroom.
Your girl stays.
Another friend gets up to grab another drink.
Your girl stays.
Another friend gets up to go dance.
Your girl stays.
It’s definitely going to be a great night, you think, when suddenly some guy comes up and puts his hand on her shoulder. Your hackles rise immediately, despite the guy’s disarming smile. Your heart sinks as you see her face light up.
“There you are, Thomas!” she says, laughing. And that’s when you know you’re in for a real challenge. He’s an A.M.O.G – or the alpha male of her group. Now you’re in for it, that silent (or not so silent) contest to see who will end up dominant, and who will go home alone.
What’s an A.M.O.G.?
First, let’s define what we mean by A.M.O.G. As mentioned above, it’s an acronym that stands for “alpha male of group”. In this instance, it’s her group’s alpha male. He’s the (often unacknowledged) leader of the group, and chances are good that your pick up of the girl in question is going to be seen as stepping on his toes.
You’ll find several different types of A.M.O.G's. out there, as well. One of the most common, and least easily dealt with, is the drunk guy. This is more common later in the evening, but it can happen at any time, particularly if the guy’s a douche and has been drinking most of the day. The best thing to do here is just to take the girl and go, which can be an excellent way to start building comfort with her and then ramping up your attraction.
The second type of guy you could meet is the player. He thinks he’s all that, and he has an attitude the size of Texas. Often, the girl just goes along with this guy because he’s too much of an effort to shake off, which makes it easier to peel her away from him during the night, since she already wants to ditch him.
Finally, there’s the good guy. He’s usually pretty funny. He’s also damn smooth. He may actually be a genuinely good person, or he could be playing at being one. Either way, he is perhaps the greatest threat to you simply because the girl likes him and likes being around him. That means she’s naturally inclined to stay with her group, making it more difficult for you to peel her away and then escalate.
How the hell are you supposed to get around this unexpected obstacle?
One option, although not a particularly appealing one, is to turn around and leave. I would never, ever recommend this unless the girl just wasn’t worth the time and effort of fighting for. And, in that case, my question for you is this – why were you bothering in the first place? A confident man knows that he can have his pick of beautiful women, and shouldn’t be hunting the fringe for weak hangers-on. You should be going for the big game!
Break the Ice with the Guys If Possible
One tip that you should certainly try if possible is to break the ice with the guys in a group. Of course, this isn’t always something you can do. If you approached the girl above and her A.M.O.G. wasn’t around, this tactic will not work.
However, if you’re approaching a group of mixed men and women, my recommendation is to break the ice with the guys first, and then work on the girls once you’ve been accepted into the group. If you play your cards right, this can actually have an effect similar to the push-pull strategy.
Take a few minutes and observe the guy’s behavior. Does he have a particular tic, or tell? Does he like to say a particular word a lot? Use that to label him and then use that label to your advantage. Does he say “dude”? Does he overuse “like”? Tell him that you’ll call him the “Like Guy” from now on and see how quickly he backs down and stays quiet.
Be Even More Alpha
Another very effective tactic here is to be even more alpha than the A.M.O.G. That’s really what this game is all about anyway. It’s all silent chest thumping and teeth baring, masked for polite society. Humans still find ways to let their inner animal out, and posturing for what basically boils down to mating rights is one of those.
By out-alpha-ing him, you literally show him who the boss is, as well as establishing the fact that you are dominant while he is submissive. Not sure how to out-alpha him? It starts by knowing how to be an alpha in the first place, which I covered in this post.
Gain Control of the Conversation
A confident guy knows that he doesn’t always have to be the center of attention. However, he also needs to understand that letting an A.M.O.G. dominate the conversation is not to his benefit. When you find yourself in a situation where the other guy just won’t shut up, and the girl seems to be eating it up, you can turn things around by regaining control of the conversation.
Let’s say the guy asks the girl you’re interested in a question. Rather than letting her answer, you step in and do it for her. You do the same thing the next time he tries to talk to him. It’s all about blocking. However, you can’t just wall her off from him. That can seem desperate.
Instead, you need to turn her focus back to you. You can do that by following the steps I laid out in How to Build Rapport with a Woman: The 6 Secrets.
Take Control and Include Him
If you really want to out alpha the alpha, you can take control of the group and then allow him to join in. That probably sounds a lot like caving in and allowing the old alpha to have control, but that’s not even remotely what I mean.
Here’s the thing. If you have done your job right, the girl wants you to hang around. She’s enjoying being with you and wants more of it. Chances are good that the rest of the group also see the value in your presence. Whether you’re making them all laugh and ensure they have a good time, or you just suavely inserted yourself, the fact is that you now have a degree of control over the group.
To get into the A.M.O.G.’s good graces, or at least to get the guy to shut up, you can do a few things. First, dominate the conversation. Give the other guy the cold shoulder and show him that you have already taken control over the situation. This will immediately anger him. In many cases, it’s likely that he’ll just get more and more pissed off, but because you’re in control and the other group members want you there, he can’t do very much.
Once he starts getting good and mad, start to include him in the conversation. Ask him questions. Let him chime in. Steer the conversation to things where he has some input. The trick is that you need to balance this against allowing him an in that lets him control the conversation.
By letting the previous alpha have more input, you immediately reinforce the fact that you are in control, and that the A.M.O.G. is actually submissive to you. He may even act submissively toward you without even realizing it.
In the End
Ultimately, A.M.O.G.’s are challenging. However, these guys do not have to be insurmountable obstacles. In fact, you may find that you actually relish these sorts of challenges. They provide you with a unique opportunity to hone your skills and improve your game. There’s also the fact that encountering an A.M.O.G. without ever having gone through this process before can be daunting as hell.
My recommendation is that you intersperse your regular game with A.M.O.G. hunting. Intentionally seeking out these situations will allow you to build your confidence in yourself and your abilities. Handling alphas and beautiful women on a regular basis will teach you things about yourself that you never imagined and open up all-new capabilities.
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