How to Become the Ultimate Ladies’ Man
For some guys, the goal is to find a girlfriend and get out of the dating game. For others, it’s to find someone to marry and settle down with. However, that’s not the case for everyone. Some men want to be able to play the field. They don’t want just one woman – they want to be surrounded by multiple women. They want to be able to flirt with and have sex with more than one woman without repercussions and without any sort of overarching strategy directed toward finding “a mate”. If you fall into that camp, then you want to be a ladies’ man, and there’s nothing wrong with it.
The Somewhat Mixed Connotations of the Term
You’ve heard it before. One person says “ladies’ man” with respect in their voice, and it is obvious that they envy the guy in question. However, for others, the word sounds a bit more derogatory. It’s almost a slur. Why the mixed connotations? It comes from the now-dying taboo against casual sex that dominated our society for hundreds of years.
In the past, it was expected that men and women would keep themselves pure (not have sex) until marriage. Anyone who did was considered sullied – they had sinned. Today, that has started to change. It’s acceptable for both men and women to have sex before they get married, even for them to have multiple partners during their lives. It’s something that your grandfather likely could not imagine, but it’s our reality, and that’s a good thing.
So, if you catch a whiff of condescension from someone when they say the words “ladies’ man”, it’s because they still have some sort of moral hang up about the idea casual sex. It’s them, not you. And, that notion will die out completely in the near future.
Now that we’ve established why some people idolize ladies’ men and some do not, let’s take a look at how to become one.
What Is a Ladies’ Man?
First and foremost, let’s define what a ladies’ man actually is. If you take a look at Merriam-Webster, you’ll find the following definition: “a man who shows a marked fondness for the company of women, or is especially attentive to women.” The Cambridge Dictionary gives us: “a man who gives women a lot of attention and likes to be with them.” Wait, you say. Neither of those says anything about hooking up with them. Where’s the sex?
In fact, you can look through dictionary entry after dictionary entry and not see the word “sex” at all. Why is that? It’s because for a true ladies’ man, sex is not necessarily the only goal. Ladies’ men do get to enjoy sex with many women, but they also enjoy simply being in the company of beautiful women. Flirting is almost as enjoyable as sex for these guys.
That should make you sit up and pay attention. If your only goal in becoming a ladies’ man is to increase your number of sexual partners, you might be pursuing the wrong goal. Instead, my suggestion would be to read my post on How to Easily get a One-Night Stand, or maybe The Most Versatile Seduction Tool: Using the Push-Pull Technique to Get Girls. Both of those are geared more for closing the deal. However, if you want to be a true ladies’ man, read on.
If you want to become a ladies’ man, you need to practice patience. Like anything good, it takes time. You need to work at it. It’s not something that will deliver overnight results. If you go in expecting beautiful women to flock to you from day one, you’re going to be sorely disappointed. It just doesn’t work that way. So, have patience. Create a timeline that takes you from newbie to master. Honestly, I would say that you need to give it a full year before you’re at the advanced level.
Like so many of my other posts, this one starts not with the ladies you’re approaching, but with you. If you lack self-confidence, you will never be a ladies’ man. Your own insecurities will sabotage your efforts and you’ll end up sitting by yourself, lonely and alone (and, yes, there’s a difference between being alone and being lonely).
So, my first tip is this – read my post on becoming a confident man. Work on yourself first. If you are not confident in your own skin, you will not be comfortable flirting with beautiful women, much less being surrounded by them all the time. And, let me tell you, there’s no way you’ll be taking them home, either. This is perhaps the single most common problem men experience. They just lack the confidence necessary.
A real ladies’ man is able to attract women by his presence alone. “Presence” is just another word for charisma – that intangible quality that makes others sit up and take notice when you enter a room, or pay attention when you speak. You need to learn how to be a confident, strong man with presence that is immediately noticeable when you walk into a room.
Dress the Part
No ladies’ man can do his thing if he’s not dressed for success. Does that mean you need to wear a suit and tie? No. Does it mean you need to own a week’s worth of sport coats? Again, no. It means that you need to be able to dress correctly for the venue, and for the women that you want to attract.
For instance, if you’re headed to a concert at an outdoor amphitheater and you want to attract hippy chicks, a suit and tie is going to drive them off. Conversely, if you’re headed for an upscale club and show up in ripped jeans and a Walmart t-shirt, you’re definitely not going to be turning heads for the right reasons. Dress for the venue. Dress for the audience. Dress for your confidence. There is no such thing as a one-size-fits-all ensemble that will work in all situations. Be prepared for anything and plan ahead.
Be a Nice Guy
Take a look at any ladies’ man and you’ll notice something. None of them are dicks. None of them are “bad boys”. The bad boys are at the fringes of the crowd, stalking solitary prey. If that’s your thing, then go for it, but this is not the right post for you to be reading. Ladies’ men are actual nice people who genuinely care about the women with whom they interact. It’s about far more than getting another girl in the sack – it’s not a game. There’s no score being kept. You surround yourself with women and you care about them on a personal level. Be kind and you might be surprised at the results you experience.
Show That You Feel
Let me tell you something, guys. That machismo that makes you hide your feelings deep inside? That’s going to get you zero when it comes to being a ladies’ man. You need to show women that you’re not a robot. Seriously, who wants to be with someone who has no emotional range? That would suck the joy right out of life.
The whole thing about guys not being emotional was dreamed up by guys for guys – we don’t want to be called names like baby or sissy, and so we pretend we’re robots. Or, worse, we pretend to be mean. Women don’t like that crap. Most of them want a guy who’s honest enough to admit that he’s a human being with human emotions.
Go Beyond Physical Compliments
Yes, women love to hear that they have beautiful eyes, clear skin, or a stunning figure. However, they want more than that and you need to give it to them if you want to really be a ladies’ man. The true ladies’ man knows that women want to be valued for what they can bring to the table other than their physical assets. What’s her personality like? How’s her sense of humor? What are her passions and interests? How smart is she? Start complimenting things like that and you’ll be on your way to becoming a ladies’ man.
As a final note, you will need to be a high status man in order to achieve your goal here. Does that mean you need to be wealthy? Not really. It just means that she needs to perceive you as being of high status. Women are evolutionarily adapted to prefer men who can protect and care for them. If she perceives this in you, you’ll be that much closer to reaching your goal.
Ultimately, becoming the ultimately ladies’ man takes time, commitment, and the right strategy. You need charisma, but also physical presence. You need status, but you must also be empathetic and in touch with your emotions. It’s a tough thing to do, but with time and patience, you can achieve it. If you’re not sure that you can do so on your own, I recommend that you sign up for my Advanced Seduction course - 'The T8 System' (click here to sign up) to learn how to be the attractive, charismatic man that women want. Simply click the button below to continue on to the next page and watch the *secret* presentation where I go through the '9 Top Secret Methods to Completely Transform Your Sex Life in 8 Weeks or Less'..