9 Tips to Help You Attract Women Online
The dating world has gotten a lot more diverse in recent years. Sure, you still have in-person venues where you can meet women – bars, clubs, even grocery stores. However, there are a growing number of electronic methods that allow you to get closer to the fairer sex, at least emotionally speaking. I even detailed how to use texting to make a woman want you. What about the digital world, though? How can you attract women online? That’s what we’ll explore in this post.
Before we get into the actual nuts and bolts of it all, understand that the tips I’ll lay out for you are mostly as applicable with Facebook and Snapchat as they are with Match.com or Tinder. The entire Internet can be your playground if you are willing to use it the right way.
Realize That Online Dating Is a Viable Solution
First and foremost, we need to get away from the stereotype that says online dating is only for losers who can’t get a date in real life or for predators looking to hide their identity. More and more women are flocking to online dating sites because they’re safer – there are no aggressive men who might physically hurt them. There are no abusive conversations that cannot be left. There are no expectations that must be lived up to.
And, because women are heading to the Internet, it means that you need to branch out, too. So, realize that online dating is something that can benefit anyone and everyone, whether you choose to swipe right on Tinder or go through a dating website.
Don’t Be a Troll
The second tip we need to cover is this – don’t be a troll. Don’t be a jerk. Don’t be THAT GUY. It’s people like that who drive women away from meeting in person. Realize that no woman is under any obligation to show you nudes, to sext with you, or to do anything else that she doesn’t want to do. Comprehend that unsolicited pictures of your penis are very likely to get you blocked and possibly banned completely. Understand that trollish behavior is not funny, cute, or appreciated.
Ok, I think we’ve covered that enough. Now, let’s get into the more important bits.
Using the Right Picture
Whether we’re talking about social media, or a dating site or app, you need to start your efforts with the right picture. Avoid using pictures that don’t really show the true you. You want to go with something as close to a traditional headshot as you can get. You should be able to clearly see your eyes, nose, and mouth, too, which means no sunglasses, and no filters.
Actually, filters can be a serious no-no, as most women are savvy enough to tell that you’re using one, and they wonder what it is that you’re hiding (and not in a good way). So, choose a good quality picture that shows you for who you really are. You also need to avoid facial expressions and poses that might send the wrong message. You don’t want to come across as being arrogant, or send a message that you’re unintelligent.
Creating Your Profile
Once you’ve chosen the right picture, you need to create your profile. Again, this goes for both social networks and dating sites/apps. However, realize that you’ll need different information for each type of site. Go through the entire profile creation process and don’t skip any form fields. Blank fields can be a red flag to women who assume that you’re leaving that information out for a reason (and the reason is usually not a good one).
It’s important that you avoid coming across as a player here. Don’t brag about things – your car, your income, or your body. Sure, some women might find braggarts attractive, but realize that they’re in the minority of the population. In general, no one likes someone who has an overinflated sense of self-worth. In your profile, talk about your positive qualities without focusing on them too much (chest-thumping).
As a final note on profile creation, at least where dating sites and apps are concerned, is to turn the conversation around. Rather than saying flat out, “I’m a sensitive guy that loves long walks on the beach”, make it about her, instead. State that you’re looking for a woman who is kind, caring, sensitive, fun, etc. By focusing on her qualities, you subtly highlight the same thing about yourself without coming across as an egomaniac.
Answering Those Personal Questions
All dating sites and apps have at least a few personal questions that need to be answered. Some sites have a ton of such questions. They can be frustrating to answer, but they are important. These questions help the site match you with potential women based on your interests, your qualities, your values, and more.
If you’re actually looking for love, then you need to answer those questions honestly. Take your time and complete the questions section before you do anything else. However, don’t be so forthcoming in your answers that you come across as being needy, or that you lack confidence.
Say what you want – a relationship, a casual hookup, casual dating, etc. The more upfront you are, the better the chances are that you’ll be able to attract the women that you want online. As a tip, most women are going to ignore you if you say that you only want sex, unless you’re using a website that’s specific to that demographic. Most women on general dating sites do want sex, but they want the usual strings attached (they’re looking for a emotional connection, ultimately).
As a final note, try to answer the questions in such a way that you appear cool, collected, and relaxed. In fact, this rule should apply to all the information that you use within your profile.
Be the Bad Boy
Ok, this tip is one that you should use sparingly. Yes, some women are attracted to the bad boy element. No one is really sure why, even those women so attracted, and it can be a challenge to pull this off without coming across as an actual douche, but it can be done. With that being said, think twice before going this route because you’ll also alienate a significant number of women who DON’T like bad boys. So, use this tactic at your own risk. I’ve personally found it wise to just be a decent person when all else fails.
Another important tip, particularly when it comes to completing your dating profile, is to use emotion to forge a direct connection with women. You can use emotion in your communication with them, too, but it definitely works well when used appropriately in your profile. Perhaps the best way to do this is to use storytelling techniques, similar to those I outlined in How to Use Storytelling to Attract Women. You can do this in a number of ways on your profile. For instance, you might retell a humorous story that highlights both your strengths and some of your weaknesses. You could tell a story that illustrates your confidence without coming across as an ass.
Use Common Sense about What You Post
It’s a shame that I need to share this, but there’s nothing that can be done to change reality. Use common sense about what you post, even if it is in a private message. Again, don’t come across as a douche, and realize that an aggressive approach is not going to get you many women. Most women using dating sites and apps, or even on Facebook, are alert for predatory guys, and they’ll shut you down fast if you seem to be crossing that boundary (as they should).
With social media in particular, realize that what you post is going to be visible to more people than you might realize, that nothing you post online is ever truly deleted. Everything you post on Facebook, Twitter, and the rest still exists somewhere, and it can resurface to bite you hard.
Keep Flirting Private
Flirting is fun. It’s exhilarating. It’s also something best kept in private. If you want to flirt with someone via their post, think again. Instead, open up a private message and flirt there. This at least keeps your comments out of general view. It also shows that you value both your privacy and hers, and that you’re a high status guy.
In the End
When everything is said and done, you can definitely attract women online. Dating sites, dating apps, and even social media sites can all help you find the woman (or women!) you’re looking for. However, you do need to use these avenues correctly or your efforts will backfire. Of course, you may not yet be completely confident in yourself or your skills. If that’s the case, I invite you to sign up for my Advanced Seduction Course - 'The T8 System' (click here). There, you'll learn ALL the skills you need to know on successfully attracting and seducing women. Simply click the button below to continue on to the next page and watch the *secret* presentation where I go through the '9 Top Secret Methods to Completely Transform Your Sex Life in 8 Weeks or Less'..