6 Ways to Get a Girl to Like You
It’s one of the oldest puzzles guys face. You know this girl. She’s cute, maybe even hot. You think about her a lot over the course of the day, but she just doesn’t seem to be into you. She might not even act like she knows you exist. How do you change that situation? What can you do to get her to like you?
While the situation might be pretty common for guys the world over, finding a solution to the problem can be incredibly daunting. Do you just hang around her hoping that she’ll one day wake up and realize that you’re there? Do you fall on one knee and declare your undying devotion to her? Do you say screw it and go find someone who actually does want to be with you?
Actually, the answer may be none of the above. There are plenty of ways that you can get a girl to start liking you, even if she doesn’t seem to know that you exist. Of course, the following steps will only work in some instances. If she’s not into you, or not interested in a relationship, or has her own secret crush, you may actually have to move on. However, most guys will find that the steps I outline below will help them out a lot.
Be Confident but Not Cocky
If you’re a regular reader here, then you’ve seen this recommendation before. I even wrote an entire post about how to be a confident guy. Why do I keep coming back to it time and time again? It’s simple. There’s nothing, and I mean absolutely nothing, more important to getting a girl to give you a second look than being able to exude quiet confidence.
Check out any issue of Cosmo, or Vogue. Hell, pick your own woman-oriented magazine. In amongst the ads for clothing and makeup tutorials, you’ll find real women talking about how much a strong, confident man who doesn’t brag about himself is a huge turn on for them.
However, realize that I mean confidence, not arrogance. I mean self-assurance, not braggadocio. If you’re too busy thumping your own chest because I-AM-MAN, then you’re missing the point. That’s not confidence. It’s actually a sign that you’re NOT confident in yourself. It’s fear masquerading as boldness, and women can spot that a mile away.
Care about Her Friends
Think about your own circle of friends. Chances are good that they play a pretty big role in your life. Some of them have been with you since early childhood. Others are newer, but they all have value, and they all impact your life in one way or another, right?
Think about this – her friends have the same value to her and an identical impact on her life. Too many guys take the view that if they can just separate the girl they’re interested in from their friends, like a lion separating a weak gazelle from the herd, then they’ll be more successful. The truth is something different.
If you really want to get a girl to like you, drop the predator act. It’s creepy, and it’s not actually doing you any good. Rather than separating her from her friends so that she can do nothing but fawn over how great you are (hello, Narcissus!), you need to get into her friends’ good graces. Make an effort to get to know her friends. Interact with them. Do what you can to become friends with them yourself.
A woman trusts her friends, and they play a huge role in her life. By showing that you are willing to make an effort to be part of that circle, you immediately take a huge step forward in comparison with other guys she knows.
Cultivate a Genuine Interest in Her
Here’s another tip that I give pretty frequently – be genuinely interested in her, and actually listen when she speaks. This is critical for building comfort with a woman, but also for showing that you’re not just another guy. What does that mean?
This is the situation that most women face. A guy approaches them. Maybe they’re cute, or perhaps they’re actually hot. They strike up a conversation, and the woman has a momentary hope that maybe this time will be different.
Then it happens – she says something, and the guy has to snap his attention back in place. “Huh? What did you say?” The woman’s heart falls. This guy is no different. She knows that his attention was wandering – his lack of attention had nothing to do with noise in the surrounding environment, and everything to do with the fact that he really didn’t care about what she had to say. All he wanted was an in, a way to possibly get with her.
Don’t be that guy. Be genuinely interested in the women that you speak with. Treat them like human beings first, and the object of your sexual desire as a distant second. Wait, you say, doesn’t that send mixed signals? Won’t she think that you just want to be friends, and that you aren’t interested in getting her into bed?
No, it won’t. At least not if you play your cards right. Treating her like a human being doesn’t have to mean throwing out your dating strategy. It just means that you need to hit that pause button and get to know her before you try to get her into the sack. So, my recommendation here is to ask her questions about herself, her situation, her job, her friends, and more. Listen to her answers, and then ask more questions built on that new information.
Have a Sense of Humor
Women love strong, confident, charismatic men. However, they also love guys who can make them laugh. And, when it comes right down to it, who do you think they’re going to remember more – the guy who stood silently with his arms crossed and a scowl on his face all night, or the guy who made them laugh all evening? It’s definitely the guy with the humor.
However, it’s not just about being able to tell a good joke. You need to have a sense of humor when it comes to yourself. If you are one of those guys who cannot poke fun at themselves, you’re going to be in for a world of disappointment. Learn to laugh, particularly at yourself, and you’ll find getting girls to like you is a lot easier.
Finally, this also extends to how you see yourself. Don’t take yourself too seriously. Don’t be afraid to act goofy around her. It’s important to make her laugh, but it is also important that you are able to put her at ease, and that often means acting a little goofy. You cut up with your own friends – let her see that side of you and she’ll fall for you that much more quickly.
Ok, I’m going to be upfront about this. Teasing can be a great way to get a girl’s attention and to make her like you. However, it can also backfire. Some women love to be teased. Others hate it. Try to find out which is the case with the woman you’re interested in before you start putting down her favorite sports team, or launch an all-out verbal attack against her favorite band.
How do you do that? A little gentle teasing will let you read her reactions first. It’s a little flirty and a little funny. If she reacts positively, up the ante. If she doesn’t, then shut it down.
Create the Right Foundation
No woman is going to notice you (or like you) if you don't lay the right foundation first. And, contrary to what you might think, this has nothing to do with her and everything to do with you. What do I mean?
What do you notice first about guys who get the girl? In most cases, they are dressed to impress. No, they might not be wearing a full suit, but they’re not dressed like a beach bum, either. They dressed appropriately for the environment, in clothes that flatter their physique.
Speaking of physique, they generally have some definition. No, they might not be Mr. Universe, but most women don’t really want that. They do want a guy with some muscle tone, though, so get off the couch and do some exercises. Finally, make sure that you’re grooming correctly. If you’re balding, shave that dome. If you’re a bit scruffy, try to neaten up the beard. A bit of self-care goes a long way toward showing women that you’re a strong, confident man.
In the End
There you have them – some of the most essential tips for helping to get a girl to like you. For those paying attention, these tips are actually pretty common sense. There doesn’t have to be a lot of mystery. Be genuine. Be interested in her. Make an effort with her friends. You’ll be surprised at how well it all works.
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