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5 years ago

3 Things You Need To Know Before Approaching Women

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The way you approach women is going to make all the difference in the world as to how they are going to react to you. First impressions matter, and so do second impressions. If you've taken heed of the advice in some of my previous articles and made sure that you look good and smile, you can talk to women without feeling nervous, and you are feeling confident; the first part of the approach is easy.

It's the actual walking up to her and beginning the conversation that tends to be the more difficult aspect of it, and that's what this article is all about. Getting ready for and making the approach. Think of it as an airplane analogy. If you are a pilot, and you don't make the correct approach, you are not going to land on the runway, so to help you with this I'm going to go through 3 things that you need to know when approaching women.



#1 Be Mentally Ready To Pick Up A Girl Anytime


One of the big mistakes that many men make is that they look at attracting women as something they are going to do when they are at the club or when they are at a party. They mentally prepare for those situations only, and they are missing out on some wonderful opportunities. Don't be like those guys.

While there may be more women at the clubs and bars who are looking for a guy, which can improve your chances, it also means you are going to be facing quite a bit more when it comes to competition in those locations. Sure, you can and should still go to those places if you are looking for women, but do not limit yourself only to those locations.

Let's look at some of the other locations and see how and why they might work well for you: supermarkets, banks, while walking around a retail store, any line that you are standing in where there is a gorgeous woman in front or behind you... Provided she's not with her boyfriend or husband, open-air markets, cafés and coffee shops, bookstores, assuming you can still find them. Museums and art galleries, the dog park if you have a dog or are watching a dog for a friend; otherwise, it just seems weird.

These are just a few of the potential locations where you might meet women. It doesn't mean that when you meet them they are going to go home with you right away, of course. Even in the clubs or bars, where this is more likely to happen, it's still somewhat rare. Simple strike up a conversation after approaching them and see where the conversation leads. It could lead to getting a number or even setting up a date. 

You don't want to miss these opportunities, so always be mentally prepared to go into the approach and talk to the women that you see and that catch your eye. Sometimes they will want to talk, sometimes they won't. It never hirts to try, but always be respectful of her time and space.

If you have been practicing your small talk with everyone you meet, whether you are attracted to them or not, you will find that it tends to be easy to get over that initial awkwardness when you are approaching a hot woman. That is because you have confidence.


#2 Develop a Topic or Two to Talk About Before Initiating a Conversation


Once you have observed briefly, it can often give you some ideas of things that you might be able to bring up in the conversation once you initiate speaking to her. If she’s in a bookstore, for example, and you see that she’s checking out the mystery titles or the photography titles, this will automatically give you something that you can talk about.

If you do happen to be at a bar, you could ask her what the best drink at the place might be, or what she’s drinking. If you are at an art gallery, a festival, a museum, or other similar location, you could ask her about the art or exhibit she’s looking at, or about any other number of things that seem relevant to the location at the time.

Make sure you have a few topics that you could talk about, so you are not stumbling over your words when you finally make your way over to her. Remember, first impressions are everything.


#3 The Approach Should Be Well-Timed


Also, you need to make sure that you think about the timing of your approach. If she is engaged in conversation with her friends and not paying attention to everything else that’s happening, your approach could be construed as an unwelcome intrusion. You want to make sure that there is room for the approach, and that you can get her attention without being too much of a bother.

You will find that many women put in headphones when they are at a café or at the gym because they really don’t want to be bothered. Choose the time and place to approach carefully, and always be ready to be turned away or rejected. It’s a fact of life. If you keep at it and are smart about your approaches and take the other advice in this article, you will find that you are going to have more success.

Now, adapting these 3 things to your game will definitely make your approaches more solid but there is SO much more to approaching then just these *3 things* There are also 3 "popular" behavioural traits that men think are a turnoff to women but are actually a MASSIVE turn on.



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