It happens to just about every guy at least once or twice. You are attracted to a woman, perhaps someone you just met or someone you’ve known for a while now. However, even though you might be interested, you suddenly realize that you are in the dreaded friend zone.
Now, let’s be clear: There’s nothing wrong with being friends with women. In fact, it’s normal and healthy to have friends who are women. Having a good mix of friends of all types is important. That does not apply to women you are truly interested in, though.
Being friendly and getting shunted into the friend zone are two very different things, so you need to know how to make sure you are not placed in the wrong category.
When you want to have a relationship with a woman, the friend zone is something you want to avoid at all costs. If you’ve been in this situation before, you know how disheartening it is to have an unreciprocated romantic or sexual interest in someone, and then you see her pursuing other guys.
You might think of her as the “one that got away”, but the truth is, she’s the one you never had a shot with if you have been placed in the friend zone. Eventually, you might even think that she’ll come around and see you as the ideal partner, the one who was there all along. This is nothing more than a near impossible fantasy fuelled by movies, many of which were written by men.
Think of the friend zone as a sexual Alcatraz. Once you are in the zone, it’s almost impossible to get out. That’s not to say that it never happens, but it is exceedingly rare. You shouldn’t put yourself in that situation if you don’t have to. More likely than not, you will be treated as one of her pals, or even just another one of the girls. It is not an ideal situation.
The relationship tends to be very one sided when it comes to fulfilment. You are not able to pursue what you want from the relationship, but you give her everything she wants. It’s not a mutual exchange, and that means that being in the friend zone is not going to feel good at all for you.
In this article I'm going to teach you 3 things you can do to make sure you avoid the friend zone. Let’s look at what you can do.
One of the main reasons that people end up just being friends with one another is because one of the parties does not find the other person attractive. You can say all you want that looks shouldn’t matter, but we all know that’s untrue. People have preferences, and they will find certain people attractive and not be attracted to others. It’s nature and a fact of life.
However, that doesn’t necessarily mean you can’t do things that will help you avoid being in the friend zone due to your appearance. There are ways to help make yourself more attractive both physically and psychologically.
First, think about your grooming and the way you dress. You might think that you look fine, but you aren’t trying to impress yourself when you look in the mirror. You are trying to make women see you as someone they might want to be with. This means taking the time to get into better shape, improving your grooming skills, and even wearing some nicer clothing. You should also think about your body language. Are you the type of person who slouches? Do you keep your head and your eyes down? Instead, learn to walk tall and sit up straight. Make eye contact and smile.
In addition, you need to work on developing your social skills, so you can be more confident when you start talking with women. Learn to converse, how to touch a shoulder or hand in a nonthreatening manner, and how to be elusive enough that you never come off as needy or someone who is a perpetual pleaser.
You don’t have to change everything about who you are and your personality, of course. However, you do want to make some changes that are healthy for you and that are going to serve to make you a more attractive person.
#2 Clear Intentions
One of the best ways to make sure you aren’t put into the friend zone is being upfront from the very beginning. If you never indicate that you might like to be something more than just friends with her, how is she going to know? If you don’t say anything, it’s not her fault. She’s not a mind reader. Always make sure your intentions are clear, and you can be sure that you won’t get put into the friend zone.
This doesn’t mean that you should be stupidly aggressive when you are trying to pursue her, of course. You don’t want to be that guy. However, you want to make sure that she is fully aware that you want to be more than just friends with her. This gives her the ability to say yes, or to tell you that she’s not interested.
For you, this means that if she’s not interested, you are not going to spend your time and emotions on someone who is never going to reciprocate your feelings.
#3 Being Overly Nice
Sure, you want to be nice and kind to the woman you are interested in romantically or sexually. You should be nice and sweet. However, you do not want to be overly nice. There is a distinction.
You can be nice and respectful of her without always being the one that she turns to when she has trouble with other men, or when she wants to vent about something. She has other friends for this. Now, there is the temptation of being the “one she turns to”, believing that it is going to help you score points and allow her to see you as the perfect man. That’s not the way it usually goes, though. Instead, she sees you as someone she can talk to about boyfriend things without ever actually making you the boyfriend. It’s nice for her, but it’s emotionally draining and defeating for you.
Be nice, but don’t always be the go to guy. When you are too nice, it appears as though you are trying too hard to win her affections, too. This can come across as depressingly desperate, and that’s not an attractive look on anyone.
So they are the 3 things that will help you steer clear from that dreaded friend zone and you know there are also 3 "popular" behavioural traits that guys don't think are attractive but are actually, MASSIVE TURN-ONS for women.