15 Ways You’re Sabotaging Your Own Success
There are many ingredients necessary to achieve success. I’ve discussed quite a few of them, including the habits rich people have that poor people don’t, how to build a mindset of success, and more. In some instances, external factors help to prevent us from achieving all that we want. However, in most cases, we sabotage our own success. We’re the architects of our own failure.
Something as simple as eating the wrong meal can impact your ability to achieve success. In this post, I want to introduce you to 15 ways you are sabotaging your own success so that you can change these behaviors and actions. If you're in a rush to read the entire post, just take a look at the infographic I created for you below and maybe even consider downloading it as well (simply click the image to download it in high quality). The power to achieve your dreams lies in your hands!
You Don’t Invest in Yourself
Perhaps the single most important way that you are sabotaging yourself is by not investing in you. You are in control of your future, but if you fail to give yourself the tools and knowledge necessary to build that future, you’re going to fail.
You Waste Your Time
What is your single most valuable asset? Is it your car? Is it your home? Is it your business degree? No, it’s none of these things. The only true asset you own is your time. If you are not using your time wisely, if you’re wasting it spinning your wheels on Facebook, or browsing through celebrity gossip websites, then you’re never going to achieve much. Use your time wisely.
You Give Up Easily
Adversity will come your way. There’s nothing you can do to prevent it. Something will go wrong – often disastrously so. When it does, you will be tempted to throw up your hands and call it quits. It’s too hard. It’s too much to deal with. You just can’t do it. If you have that attitude, then, no, you can’t do it. However, if you’re prepared for adversity and committed to persevering, then nothing can stop you.
You Criticize Others
We focus on finding the weaknesses and flaws in others in order to make us feel better about ourselves. We tear others down in order to build ourselves up. We focus on what other people are doing wrong to take the focus off of us. The problem here is that criticizing others does not actually help you in any way, other than creating a negative mindset. Truly successful people build others up. They lend a hand. They offer encouragement, not denigration. They compliment others – they don’t criticize.
You Hold Grudges
At some point in time, someone has done you wrong. Perhaps it was an ex-lover. Maybe it was a friend in school. It could have been a sibling, or a business associate. That wrong sticks with you. It rankles in your heart, festering and growing cankerous. Grudges, that held-in, pent-up anger and resentment towards someone you perceive as having done you wrong, limit your ability to become successful. They tie you to the past when you should be looking forward. Forgive and move on.
You Fear Change
We all love our comfort zones. The walls we’ve built around our lives define us and seem to keep us safe. However, they also limit what we can achieve. Change is scary, that’s true. However, without change, there is no way to achieve more than what you currently have. Without the ability to evolve, you stagnate. If you want to succeed, you must grow, and growth means change. Embrace that.
You Don’t Set Goals
If you look at any successful individual in today’s world, you will find that they all have one thing in common – they set goals. Usually, they set daily goals, but they also have an overarching plan that allows them to move from achievement to achievement in their quest for ultimate success. Take a page out of their book. Set goals. Start small if you need to, but get in the habit of setting (and then reaching) goals every day. That will build the right mindset you need for success.
You Blame Others
Passing the buck. Sharing the blame. Pointing the finger. We have a lot of aphorisms that speak to the same act – blaming others. Successful people don’t blame others for their mistakes. They don’t make excuses for their failures. They accept blame, and then look for the lesson in the situation. What could they have done better or differently that would have led to success rather than failure? Don’t blame others. Accept responsibility for your own actions and choices. Find the lesson, and then grow.
You Try to Bring Others Down
What is your first thought when you see someone else enjoying a modicum of success? If you have a mindset of success, you’re happy for them. You might go so far as to celebrate their success with them. However, too many people instantly want to take that person down a peg. We become jealous and envious of them. If you try to bring others down, you will never find success on your own. You’re focused on the negative, rather than the positive. Remember – successful people help others up, not tear them down.
You Think You Know It All
Let’s put this one as plainly as possible – no matter how long you’ve been studying something, and no matter how much information you have amassed about a topic, you don’t know it all. There will always be something that you did not know, some tidbit of important knowledge that has eluded you. That should not discourage you, though. In fact, it should excite you. It means that there’s always something new to discover even about things that you’ve studied extensively.
You Make Unhealthy Food Choices
Our bodies need food and water in order to survive. You need to fuel yourself if you’re going to take on the world. However, the food and drink that you choose can have a negative impact on your health, and on your success. Fat-heavy food and sugar-laden drinks can be very satisfying, but understand they come with a dark downside. Sugar crashes, caffeine crashes, weight gain, heart disease, high blood pressure – these things do not lead to success. Focus on helping your body and mind become as healthy and fit as possible.
You Seek Approval
Do you think Bill Gates looks to others for approval before he does something? Do you think Steve Jobs waited for someone else to see the iPhone concept as a great idea before pushing forward with it? Truly successful people act first – they don’t predicate their actions and decisions on the approval of others. They don’t need external validation to see the value in their actions.
You Stop Learning
Again, there is always something new to learn. If you stop learning, you stop growing. If you stop growing, you stagnate. Once you stagnate, your path to success is finished. If you look at all of the world’s most successful people, you’ll discover that they are all lifelong learners – committed to learning something new every single day of their lives. Take a cue from them. Never stop learning, because if you do, you’ll sabotage your success.
You Don’t Finish What You Start
What is the single most common reason for personal and professional failure? It’s not adversity. It’s not money troubles. It’s not a lack of resources. It’s a failure on the part of the entrepreneur to push forward. It’s an inability to finish what they started. If you jump from project to project, business idea to business idea, without ever actually finishing anything, you’re never going to be successful.
You Have a Negative Attitude
Finally, your attitude has an immense amount to do with your success, or lack thereof. If you have a negative attitude, you’ll never succeed. That’s because negativity breeds negativity. If you focus on what’s wrong, or what’s bad about a particular situation, that’s all you’ll see. That’s all you’ll know. If you really want to be successful, open yourself up to the power of positive thinking. Open yourself up to joy and wonder. A positive attitude will buoy you up when times get tough, but a negative attitude will drag you down into the depths.
In the End
These 15 acts and behaviors have an immense impact on your ability to achieve success, even on your ability to enjoy life in the first place. Thankfully, avoiding that fate is as simple as taking the opposite action. For instance, invest in yourself, read constantly to learn more, be joyful, support others in their journey, adapt to changing situations, don’t make excuses – you get the idea.
In the end, always remember that success is a choice. Which do you choose to be – a successful person, or an unsuccessful person? The power lies in your hands.
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